01.30.08 10 Things My Wife Wouldn’t Want Me To Say
1. That’s her, at the desk. Becky has great self-esteem, she just hates being the center of attention. So she doesn’t like to have her picture taken, to be complimented or talked about at all ever publicly. So here I go with nine not-so-usual things I love about my wife.
2. I think that Mother’s Day planter/picture frame/paper weight is three years old. Still on the desk. She keeps everything our kids make and displays it as if priceless, because, to her, it is.
3. Becky is a multi-tasker with an exhausting-to-witness work ethic. She’s wearing an apron (just finished cooking.) While doing math (just started our taxes.) I’m sitting on my butt a few feet away playing with my new camera (loser.)
4. She saves McDonald’s large styrofoam cups. We have a cabinet full of them, with lids. Slightly neurotic plus thrifty equals strangely attractive.
5. Becky keeps folders she puts ideas from magazines and newspapers in: birthday party cakes and decorations, meals to try, places to visit, gifts to give, kid crafts, home improvements. She’s creative and adventurous yet paradoxically anal retentive. I’ve never known anyone like this.
6. Workout DVDs, unwrapped and well-used. My wife aerobicizes. Sweat, tight pants and discipline. That’s hot. (Brian may be onto something with that theory of his.)
7. Becky home schools Gabriella (age seven). Those books are on that shelf because her convictions were greater than her fears. She’s not easily swayed.
8. Becky has every year of her life, my life, and our kids’ lives put in photo albums, with every person in every shot listed. She’s not in many of the pictures these days (something I’m working hard to remedy) but the rest of us have proof we did stuff and a back-up memory on paper, she says, if we ever have a brain injury or Alzheimer’s.
9. She’s my business manager. She was the cutest ruthless auditor in Dallas years ago. I put my receipts in a little basket on her desk and they’re magically transformed into completely legal tax returns. Becky and her ten key skills keep me out of jail.
10. She’s cheap. She bought that frame for $3 and those Kleenex were three for the price of one. She routinely cuts our grocery bill in half. It’s a sport to her. She doesn’t shop for groceries and clothes. She hunts them down like the Navy Seal of shopping that she is and shows no mercy.
What not-so-usual things do you love about that person on the other side of your bed?
andrew said:
You’ve gotta be kidding me! I thought my wife (Courtney) was the only one who collected McDonalds cups. Haha She actually saves them so she can walk back in and get a “free refill"… one day I’m gonna tip off the manager, just to give her a scare! Haha
Mark Whitlock said:
This is one of the best blogposts I’ve ever read. Kudos to you. You are a man well-loved and I hope Becky feels the love of this post.
My bride is amazing, too. Right now, she’s recovering from foot surgery. She’s been a cast on her left foot since December 28. Somehow, she’s managed to “hold court” from her bed as she home educates our four children.
She’s found a way to put aside her pain and the cares of the world for special time with me.
I’ve been freelancing since March which means I’m gainfully unemployed. She’s ridden the ups and downs of our financial tide with grace and encouragement.
We adopted a beautiful China doll in 2006. Her speech is coming along more slowly than the new season of “Lost” , but not so slowly that my wife’s patience wanes.
May our wives feel our love as much on days like today as they do on our anniversaries and 2/14.
Rachel said:
I’ve been learning the “tricks of the trade” for the past 6 or 7 months since I graduated from college. It made me realize how efficient my parents are and how ridiculously faithful God is.
And I think it’s very sweet that you posted this. Makes up for number 3, I guess.
By the way...I’m having issues posting a comment on your “Abba Father” entry. Which is a bummer because I had a story for you. Just an FYI.
said:
Shaun, Shaun, Shaun.... Does Becky know you put her picture on your blog? If she finds this today (It’s Wednesday) NO BUSINESS TIME!!! What were you thinking?!?!
aaron said:
ok thanks for not going into #6 in too much detail.(PG rating...but nearing PG-13)
Sounds like you love your wife!
Shaun Groves said:
Thanks, Rachel. I was wondering why we had NO comments. I’ll check into it.
said:
This entry has to be one of your best ever. I want to be just like Becky when I grow up (I’m 45, BTW). I do share her love for a good deal, but she puts me to shame in most every other area. Thanks for sharing her with us. Becky, some stranger in Arizona thinks you ROCK!
said:
I love that my hubby is a carpenter and can do/fix anything around the house. Just last week, he moved all our cabinets because our new fridge was too wide and too tall. They sent the wrong one and we didn’t realize it until I had taken out the styrofoam and tape, cleaned and packed it full of our food. They didn’t want it back, so he made it fit.
He’s a wonderful father, and unwavering in his quest to raise Godly children. You can find him most evenings in the summer in our driveway with a group of 16-17 year olds shooting hoops, and keeping up with them!
He’s a faithful man of God and the spiritual leader of our household. He arranges our family devotionals, and he meets a few guys two mornings per week at 6am to make sure he’s in the Word and they hold each other accountable on private issues with which they struggle. (He also plays basketball at 6am on two other mornings/week with those same men.)
And finally… He’s hot! Much hotter than I am. Sorry, I have to disagree with Brian’s theory.
LeahA said:
Awesome
Veretax said:
Well at least she doesn’t try to save what was in the McDonald’s cups in the refrigerator.
Pete Wailes said:
Mine lives almost 200 miles away in a different country, I’m afraid. However, things I love about her:
1. She’s incredibly kind, compassionate, warm and giving
2. She’s extremely cuddly
3. She makes me feel special
4. She’s mature enough to know when it’s ok to not be
5. She’s a Christian too
Brooke said:
Seriously, one of the best blogs ever! What a fun way to describe your wife
tanner said:
wives aren’t “cheap”! they’re “frugal”.
David Martin said:
We’re visiting the in-laws right now, and my father-in-law has been burning DVDs of old home videos for us to watch. One of them had footage of my wife from right around the year we met, showing off the 5 or 6 birds that she was feeding and caring for (some of them belonged to a friend who was away on travel, but still, it’s scary impressive that she was able to con her parents into letting the house be overrun with pets). I realized anew that my wife just has this innate need to take care of beings that can’t care for themselves. She’s gonna make an awesome mom one day.
Ray said:
Sleepy-head with great sense of humor.
Prefer sleep naked and goes in for sport regularly.
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Denise - Money blog said:
She is cute and so organized as well. Women are good at a lot of things i guess.
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